12: Maybe I'm Not a Horrible Person

by Max Leibman

You want to know what this week’s episode about? Well, thanks for asking!

From social science studies to New Thought garbage like The Magic, plenty of sources suggest gratitude makes a difference in our lives. The Priority team appreciates the importance of this topic and gives it most of the seriousness it deserves.

Caitie is concerned about the importance of sincerity and the practical outcomes of praise and appreciation. Meanwhile, Max is cranky about how poorly we respond to each other’s gestures of gratitude (“No, thank you!”). The team explores when it’s appropriate to say “No problem!” (hint: not often) and better ways to express and accept gratitude.

Along the way, we learn how William Shakespeare invented etiquette and how Dr. Phil saved baseball . . . as well as several other things that are, in contrast, actually true.

You’re welcome. 


Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt | Wikipedia / IMDB

Netflix | On-Demand Video Service

Priority Episode No. 1: “A Montage of Montages” | Podcast Episode

Gratitude | Wikipedia

“’No Problem’: Yes, It’s a BIG Problem” by Bill Flanagan | CBS News

Roderick on the Line Episode No. 40: “Status Butter” | Podcast Episode

De Nada | Wiktionary

You’re Welcome | Wiktionary

Etiquette | Wikipedia

Othello (play) | Wikipedia

William Shakespeare | Wikipedia

“Why You Shouldn’t Say ‘You’re Welcome’” by Adam Grant | Huffington Post

Reciprocity (social psychology) | Wikipedia

My Pleasure (idiom) | The Free Dictionary by Farlex

Priority Episode No. 2: “[verb] the One You’re With” (jump to 27.37) | Via Overcast

“The Over-Praise Delimma: When Complimenting Kids Actually Holds Them Back” by Catherine Pearson | Huffington Post

“Learning to Praise” by Donald Daiker | Book Chapter

“Ban the Feedback Sandwich” by Susan M. Heathfield | About Money

“Do We Know What We Like?” by Sam McNerney | Why We Reason

Employee of the Month (program) | Wikipedia

Priority Episode No. 10: “Still No Real Beths” | Podcast Episode

Sports League | Wikipedia

Major League Baseball | Wikipedia

List of Collect Athletic Conferences in the United States | Wikipedia

Phil McGraw | Wikipedia

“The Power of Praise and Recognition” by Susan Finch | Training Journal

The Magic (book) | Wikipedia

The Secret (2006 Film) | Wikipedia

Rhonda Byrne | Wikipedia

Scientology | Wikipedia

Priority Episode No. 3: “Screwing Up is Part of the Program” (jump to 26:11) | Via Overcast

Availability Heuristic | Wikipedia

“The Office Flirt” by Susan Campbell | Psychology Today

“’I Think She’s Attracted to Me’: The Effect of Men’s Beliefs on Women’s Behavior in a Job Interview Scenario” by Robert D. Ridge and Jeffrey S. Reber | Basic and Applied Social Psychology

“Counting Blessings Versus Burdens: An Experimental Investigation of Gratitude and Subjective Well-Being in Daily Life” by Robert A. Emmons and Michael E. McCullough | Journal of Personality and Social Psychology

Gratitude Journal | Wikipedia